Healing ground

 When you are on your healing journey you sometimes begin to wonder whether you are healing or just practicing avoidance. Asking yourself this is hard. Sometimes uncomfortable.  But it is one of the most important truths we learn when we start rebuilding our lives. Healing and avoidance can look very similar on the surface. Both can involve distancing yourself from people, habits and environments that hurt you. Both can even involve  moments of silence and withdrawal. But underneath, they come from two different places. At a point in my life I started distancing myself from friends. I said to myself that I'm growing and healing and it was for the best. But turns out I was just running away from my situation.  I didn't have the best experience with the friends and since I didn't like confrontation I chose to withdraw from them. And yes in some situations that is the best thing to do but in some talking it out might solve the situation. Avoidance wasn't the answer. Hea...

Why Rebuilding Your Life Starts with a Gentle Truth Sometimes, rebuilding your life doesn't start with a surge of confidence or a perfect plan. It starts with one honest moment: "I need to start somewhere." And "somewhere" can be simple, soft, and slow. I learned this through my own healing. When I started exercising, I was obsessed with the result—I just wanted a flat stomach. I pressured myself for weeks, but saw nothing. It was only when I realized that healing takes place in steps—when I stopped the pressure and actually started enjoying the movement—that I finally saw results. Healing happens when you stop forcing yourself to leap and start allowing yourself to take small, positive steps. Step 1: Tell yourself the truth about where you are Healing starts when you stop pretending you are okay.  You cannot map a new route until you admit you are lost. Ask yourself:    • What hurts?    • What do I need?    • What feels heavy?    • What am I...

Healing does not always arrive with the sound of trumpets or the roar of a grand revelation.  More often than not, it begins in the smallest, softest way imaginable: when you finally tell the truth—even if only in a whisper. In a world that demands constant performance, curated perfection, and "hustle culture," the act of being honest with yourself is a radical form of rebellion.  I had to admit I have a huge phone addiction, I would spend upto twelve hours just watching and binging old shows.  It was a hard admit and the harder part was getting over it.  I look at others and see them on there phones and think, " It is alright." But the day ends I can't even blink since I spent my whole day looking at a screen and now I feel pathetic. I knew something had to change. We spend a staggering amount of energy maintaining facades, convincing ourselves and others that we are "fine," even when the weight of our habits is crushing us. But as many who have faced...

We often reserve the word "bravery" for the grand gestures—the public speeches, the mountain climbs, or the heroic rescues.  But there is a more profound, quieter bravery that never makes it into the headlines.  It is the bravery that happens in the stillness of your own room, in the early hours of the morning, when you decide to try one more time. Starting again is not a setback. Most of the time when I return where I grew up from my place I always have a hard time keeping my habits since I keep associating the place with my previous self who didn't have the habits I did now. It becomes really heavy and I start having fears that I'm never gonna be able to get back the good habits I had built. But even with the resistance I experience I still give it my all to rebuild it and it is not as easy but living in the fear is also not easy.  Restarting is a testament to the fact that you haven’t given up on yourself, even when life has pushed you into corners you never asked ...

 The journey of healing is often marketed as a series of loud, triumphant breakthroughs.  We are told it looks like glowing skin, a sudden surge of confidence, or a complete overhaul of our daily habits.  But for many of us, the reality of emotional and spiritual recovery is much quieter.  It is a season where, on the surface, nothing seems to be changing at all. You wake up with the same lingering heaviness in your chest.  You carry the same familiar fears into your morning coffee. You might even find yourself slipping back into old patterns—like binging a show when you promised yourself you’d spend the evening reading.  I used to be a huge binge watcher and sometimes on the weekends when I have nothing to do I start binging. I start feeling awful like all my work was for nothing but I still watch but the difference is past me would have finished all the season but now I would just watch a few episodes and then stop. It looks like nothing but that is a hug...

 In a world that measures worth by output, the act of sitting still can feel like an act of rebellion. We live in a culture of "hustle," where our calendars are badges of honor and "busy" is the standard response to "How are you?" But there is a specific kind of exhaustion that sleep cannot fix.  It’s the weight of carrying responsibilities without a pause, the tension of a nervous system stuck in "high alert," and the quiet ache of a body that has been asking for a break—only to be ignored. If you find yourself unable to rest on the weekends, constantly finding "one more thing to do" despite your bone-deep fatigue, you aren't lazy. You are likely caught in the Productivity-Guilt Cycle. The Whisper vs. The Scream: Understanding Soft Rest Rest isn’t always a dramatic event. It doesn’t have to be a week-long vacation or a twelve-hour sleep cycle.  True, restorative rest is often much softer than that.  It is the quiet moment when your...

The Weight of "Somewhere Else" We live in a world that rewards us for looking ahead. We are trained to build five-year plans, curate our future legacies, and analyze our past mistakes until they feel like heavy anchors. But in the midst of all this mental time travel, we often forget one fundamental truth: life is only ever happening right now. There are moments when life simply asks us to be here. Not in tomorrow’s "ifs," not in yesterday’s "whys," but right here in the physical space our bodies inhabit. Yet, if you find staying present difficult, you aren’t alone. Being present is significantly harder than it sounds. The Loud Inside Voice For many of us, the loudest person we know is the one living inside our own heads.  This "inside voice" is a constant narrator. It critiques our choices, whispers fears about things that haven't happened, and replays embarrassing moments from years ago like a broken record. I have a really loud inner voice...

 The person you used to be was a hero. They carried you through the storms of your youth, navigated the uncertainties of heartbreak, and built the walls that kept you safe when the world felt too loud. But lately, those walls have started to feel less like a sanctuary and more like a cage.  The television shows that used to offer an escape now feel monotonous; the conversations that once sparked joy now feel like scripts you’ve memorized but no longer believe in. If you feel a sense of heaviness in your daily routines, it is not a sign that you are failing. It is a sign that you are expanding. You are outgrowing yourself, and while that process is beautiful, it is rarely graceful. The Weight of the Familiar There is a specific kind of safety in staying exactly who we are. I used to get so anxious to go out because a lot of things can go wrong so I decided to stay in the beautiful cage I created for myself (my house). It was just so comfortable but comfort was hindering me from...

  ( Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.)      For the longest time, I thought consistency meant showing up every single second, every minute, every day without fail. Turns out, consistency isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up even when motivation fades. I’ve noticed I often avoid tasks that feel boring. For example, writing my notes before a test. I’d think, “Writing one page doesn’t count. I’ll just wait and write ten pages later.” Looking back, that small one-page effort would have made a difference if I had started earlier. The truth is, every small step counts, even when it feels insignificant. What Is Consistency Really? Consistency is simply doing the same thing with intention. It’s not about never missing a day or performing perfectly. It’s about returning to your path even after setbacks, completing the small steps that, over time, lead to meaningful growth. For me, starting th...

We’ve all made mistakes at some point in our lives. And often, because of the outcome, we end up beating ourselves up. I know I have. For example, I’ll set goals I plan to accomplish the next day. If I wake up later than intended, I start blaming myself—and suddenly, I end up not doing all the other things I had planned. In those moments, it’s not the mistake itself that cripples me—it’s the harsh words I tell myself. Over time, I realized I needed to learn self-compassion—showing myself the same love and care I would give to someone I love. What Is Self-Compassion? Self-compassion is acknowledging your humanity.  It’s recognizing that everyone struggles, makes mistakes, and experiences hard days. It’s not judging or criticizing yourself. Instead, it’s speaking kindly to yourself—even when things go wrong. It’s about understanding that your worth is not tied to your performance or achievements. Self-compassion doesn’t mean excusing mistakes—it means responding to them with understa...

  There’s a common idea that healing means making progress every day without ever making a mistake. The truth? Healing is rarely a straight line. It bends, loops, pauses, and sometimes feels like it’s standing still. But every moment counts, no matter where you are on your journey. Healing Doesn’t Follow a Perfect Pattern Growth doesn’t happen in a perfect, orderly way.  Some days you may take three steps forward and one step back, and others you may feel like three steps backward and one step forward. And guess what? In both scenarios, you are still moving. Think of it like waves in the ocean—they rise, they fall, but the tide still moves forward. Having a day that feels unproductive or non-progressive doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It doesn’t erase all the effort you’ve made so far. Healing is about breaking down and rebuilding.  You’re letting go of old habits, patterns, and beliefs while creating new ones. That process can be uncomfortable and full of friction—but even o...

  ( Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.)     Have you ever found yourself trapped in a loop of thoughts, endlessly replaying conversations, imagining countless “what if” scenarios, and feeling stuck in your own head? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.  Overthinking can make you feel like you’re living more in your mind than in your real life. The good news? You can learn to break free and reclaim your peace. Why Do We Overthink? Overthinking often stems from caring too much—about being accepted, doing things right, avoiding pain, or being seen in a certain way. At its core, it is usually rooted in fear:    • Fear of failure    • Fear of rejection    • Fear of making the wrong decision    • Fear of disappointing others For example:  I remember a time I went out with friends. One of them wasn’t in a good mood, and I immediately wondered: ...