Healing ground

 Introduction: The Day I Put the Words Down There was a season of my life where I explained everything.    • Why I felt tired.    • Why I needed space.    • Why I changed.    • Why I said no.    • Why I healed differently. I believed clarity would protect me. I believed explaining myself would make people kinder, softer, more understanding. But instead, it made me exhausted. So I stopped explaining—and something unexpected happened.  My life got quieter.    • Not emptier.    • Not lonelier. Just… peaceful. This is what I stopped explaining—and how choosing silence became one of the most powerful self-growth strategies I’ve ever used. 1. I Stopped Explaining My Boundaries At first, my boundaries came with speeches. I’d over-justify why I couldn’t show up, why I needed rest, why something didn’t feel right. I thought if people understood, they would respect me. But here’s the truth I learned through experience...

Dear you, I remember you clearly. You weren’t dramatic about your pain. You didn’t announce it. You carried it quietly, hoping it would eventually make sense. You kept showing up even when you felt invisible to yourself. You weren’t weak — you were exhausted. Exhausted from trying to explain your feelings. Exhausted from starting over. Exhausted from believing that things would change while feeling stuck in the same place. You questioned yourself often. You wondered if the effort was worth it. You wondered if anyone would notice if you stopped trying so hard. But here’s what I need you to know — and what I want others reading this to hear too: You didn’t almost give up because you were incapable. You almost gave up because you had been strong for too long without rest. There is a difference. What You Did Right (Even When You Didn’t Feel Like It) You stayed. Not perfectly. Not confidently. But honestly. You learned that survival doesn’t always look like progress. Sometimes it looks like...